This is extremely profound. I think most people who tend to treat others poorly are more likely to victimize themselves and rush to blame others. They are always on the defensive and are unwilling to confess their own faults. Maybe there is something hidden deep within the invisible layer of their inner worlds. Something that keeps them always in a fight or flight mode, prevents them from looking in the mirror and recognizing that the mistake must not always be thrown at the opposite party. This reminds me of how the enemy weaponizes the Holocaust to oppress the Palestinians and still look at themselves as the victims of unfair treatment. In my opinion, if one can't see one's mistakes and tries to sign out of the victim mindset, one would give oneself the right to hurt others and not feel guilty afterwards. Thank you, Zahra!
Thank you Marwa! We all have the potential to be a narcissist, to hurt the people closest to us, to deny that is to only make the possibility all the more likely. As you articulated, our responsibility is to realise this potential and overcome it, transform from it.
This is beautiful. I think sometimes the hand that wields the sharpest blade belongs to a heart that bled too much, too long. And yet, staying in a place of pain and it "calcifying" just keeps you on the path where hurt-people-hurt-people. I love the picture you've painted with this.
This was such a great read, and so, so necessary. I had never read about the therapeutic process from the therapist's side and my mind is kind of blown. The tightropes you must navigate! Everyone who goes to therapy is a little delusional, or if that's too strong a word, emotionally invested in their interpretation of reality. I know I was, for sure, and resisted every attempt at a different perspective! You have a tough job not breaking those early roots of trust and not letting the client live in delululand forever. Mad respect!
We most definitely are all a little delusional, manufacturing evidence to support and reinforce our perceptions of ourselves and others. Thank you Khatoun! Means a lot 🫶🏻
I really can only speak for myself. I must always reflect Inward and check myself. What's going on in there? What is it that I am afraid of? And then I must tell myself that there is nothing to fear because really there isn't.
This is extremely profound. I think most people who tend to treat others poorly are more likely to victimize themselves and rush to blame others. They are always on the defensive and are unwilling to confess their own faults. Maybe there is something hidden deep within the invisible layer of their inner worlds. Something that keeps them always in a fight or flight mode, prevents them from looking in the mirror and recognizing that the mistake must not always be thrown at the opposite party. This reminds me of how the enemy weaponizes the Holocaust to oppress the Palestinians and still look at themselves as the victims of unfair treatment. In my opinion, if one can't see one's mistakes and tries to sign out of the victim mindset, one would give oneself the right to hurt others and not feel guilty afterwards. Thank you, Zahra!
Thank you Marwa! We all have the potential to be a narcissist, to hurt the people closest to us, to deny that is to only make the possibility all the more likely. As you articulated, our responsibility is to realise this potential and overcome it, transform from it.
I highly agree! Thank you, Zahra!
This is beautiful. I think sometimes the hand that wields the sharpest blade belongs to a heart that bled too much, too long. And yet, staying in a place of pain and it "calcifying" just keeps you on the path where hurt-people-hurt-people. I love the picture you've painted with this.
Thank you and beautifully put!
Loved this. Such a poignant reminder to check the victim within me and to also know when to bite my tongue when attempting to advise those around me.
Absolutely! Thanks Maryam
This was such a great read, and so, so necessary. I had never read about the therapeutic process from the therapist's side and my mind is kind of blown. The tightropes you must navigate! Everyone who goes to therapy is a little delusional, or if that's too strong a word, emotionally invested in their interpretation of reality. I know I was, for sure, and resisted every attempt at a different perspective! You have a tough job not breaking those early roots of trust and not letting the client live in delululand forever. Mad respect!
We most definitely are all a little delusional, manufacturing evidence to support and reinforce our perceptions of ourselves and others. Thank you Khatoun! Means a lot 🫶🏻
I really can only speak for myself. I must always reflect Inward and check myself. What's going on in there? What is it that I am afraid of? And then I must tell myself that there is nothing to fear because really there isn't.
Good story. Thank you. Speaking of therapy I had an intake appointment Friday morning and start therapy Thursday. I'm looking forward to it.
Wonderful! Glad to hear it
This one is an insightful read. It got me thinking and looking inward 🤭
Please continue with this series. This new concept is lovely.